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Important Questions- What You Should Be Asking (#41)

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Challenge:

Take a little time and reflect on the five most important people question. And then also ask yourself about the five closest people to you, the people that you interact with the most and see where there's that overlap.

If the five most important people are actually not people that you interact with on a regular basis, or if you have good parody between the two. And if you don't have good parody, the five people you consider really important are not actually in your life, all that much. Then the challenge is either figure out a way to get them involved more so that they're more proximate to you or consider updating your list.

Fellowship Definition:

/ˈfelōˌSHip/

friendly association, especially with people who share one's interests.

"they valued fun and good fellowship as the cement of the community"


Important Questions List:

What would be your biggest regret if you died tomorrow?
What could you do today to avoid that regret?
Who would you regret not having spent more time with?
What would you not regret having spent time on?
Who are the five most important people in your life?
Do they know the impact they have on you?
How do you determine who they are?
If you could tell or show every one of your friends something, what would it be?
What’s stopped you from doing it before?
Are you happy?
If you are, what should you protect to keep it that way?
If you aren’t, what’s something you’re doing to change it?
Are those around you happy?
What gets you out of bed in the morning?
What tempts you to crawl back in bed and hide?
If you don't have anything getting you out of bed, what would?
What do you do with your anger when it comes along?
Are you proud of your response?
Is there room for improvement?
Does it change depending on what you're mad about?
How do you cope with stress?
Do you feel your method is healthy?
What do you hate doing?
Is it fair to hate that thing?
Is there a silver lining?
Is there anything you love doing? What is it? (if not, you need to find it…)
How could you do more of that thing?
Is there something taking up your time elsewhere?
What advice would you give yourself a year ago?
Would you have listened to yourself?
What advice did someone give you that you wish you'd listened to?
What habit or behavior do you most wish to cultivate?
How can you start taking steps in the next five minutes?
Is there anyone in your life who already has these habits?
Do you have a habit you wish to get rid of ? (The answer should be yes…)
How can you start taking steps in the next five minutes?

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Episode Transcript

[00:00:19] Andrew: Hey guys, welcome back to the podcast.We are excited to have you for another week. Another episode, another hot topicin Daniel mine's mind. So this week we're going to be covering importantquestions. This was another sort of chapter from our book it's at the end, andit is technically labeled as a chapter.

I'm pretty sure, but it's more of a. Not a reading chapter, buta thought provoking chapter where we ask you questions to then fill in theblank with think about and kind of contemplate what we think is important. Sowith that said, Daniel, why are questions important?

[00:00:53] Daniel: I think questions are important?

because. If you're not asking questions, then it probably meansthat you're not taking time to reflect on things. You're not demonstratingcuriosity. And we've talked about curiosity a lot throughout the podcast, andit's just, know, whenever, whenever you're asking questions either aboutyourself or about others, it shows a deeper level of interest in an area and adesire to learn more.

And so really. Without asking questions. I feel like we don'tgrow as people. I feel like life is a little bit boring. As you know, I do alot of interviewing of candidates. And so whenever I come into thosesituations, obviously I'm going to ask a lot of questions. I mean, that's kindof the point of an interview is to get to know people.

But then at the end of interview, I always give opportunity forthe people that I'm interviewing to ask me questions. And if you want asurefire way for me to never offer you a job, come into an interview and thendon't ask any questions at the end. Like that's how big of a deal it is to me.I will, no matter how good the candidate is, if they say, yeah, I don't reallyhave any questions for you.

That's a huge, huge red flag. Because to me that says either,yes, Care that much about what this job is, because you don't want to know thatmore. You're not all that curious or inquisitive of a person, which makes mequestion. If you're going to really take time to really grow in the role oryou're just again, so focused on like you and what your answers are that youdon't really have a care about what information you may get from somebody else.

So I think questions are hugely important.

[00:02:29] Andrew: that's a good answer. I like it.

So with that said for one, I will remember that if I ever gointerview with you, what, that'd be sad. You have to turn me down on aninterview.

[00:02:38] Daniel: I gave you, I gave you the answer it'sto ask questions.

[00:02:49] Andrew: All right. I'm going to jump into someof these questions and let's see where we go with it. Uh, This was, I thinknumber nine. I'm not really sure where it landed in the book, but Daniel, isthere anything you love doing? And if so, what is it? If not, you obviouslyneed to find it for those listening.

[00:03:03] Daniel: Is there anything I love doing? Imean, there are a whole, a whole ton of things that I love doing. And right nowit's kind of sad. So, my wife and I were actually in the midst of COVID quarantine,we did not escape the virus. We, we caught it. We're Okay. Like, life is fine.If you hear me coughing throughout the episode, it's probably not actuallybecause of COVID it's probably because I mowed the yard and mucked out thegutters yesterday.

So there were a lot of things that I love doing and, and I feelit even more so now when I can't go out and do all of those things, becausemost of what I want. doing centers around fellowship with other people. So Ilove playing ultimate Frisbee. I love playing video games. I love to travel anddo obstacle course races and all these sorts of things.

But really at the heart of it all is just, I love doing thingswith other people, experiencing life with other people. And any, any joy thereis in an activity. I feel like it's Increased by a hundred fold doing it withsomebody else that also enjoys that activity.

[00:04:03] Andrew: I love that you used the wordfellowship. Not only because I love Lord of the rings, which is anembarrassingly large amount of why I like that word, but I think it has abetter connotation of what you mean by what you're doing. You're not justsaying, I like spending time with friends. It's fellowship with friends andthere's just a whole.

Different level of intimacy that comes with that being thefocus, you know, I was doing that values thing where I was trying to figure outwhat my values were in a more concrete vision statement kind of way a couplemonths ago. And fellowship was one of the words that came up because it's, it'sthis kind of, you know what, let me pull up a definition.

So I don't butcher it. it's a. Association with people whoshare one's interests. You're not just hanging out with people. You areintentionally, almost growing and moving towards the same goal and whatever itis, maybe it's Frisbee. And the goal is to play Frisbee. But it's not just thishappenstance.

So I really appreciate you using that word. And I really, likethat word.

[00:04:59] Daniel: Yeah. And So with, with that question,that is one from the chapter. I don't remember if that's one that I put in orthat you put in, but what do you think is the value of asking yourself aquestion like that? Why is that? I would pose to readers. Knowing what you loveto do is important because if you don't, don't make your time use intentional.If you don't spend your time, the same way you spend your money, whichhopefully is less Willy nilly and more like, Hey, I'm saving up for this. Iwant to do.

[00:05:30] Andrew: XYZ knowing actually what you like todo, which sounds kind of silly that anybody should have to be told to actuallylook at what they like to do. But it's, it's rare. A lot of people strugglewith actually understanding what they enjoy and what they love doing and whattheir passions are. And we have fun eating bad foods.

We have fun watching TV, Playing video games, but these areless because of something we love doing and more because it's easy to do. Andwe haven't gotten to the four-letter words yet on this podcast at least, buteasy as another one of those words that you. want to be attributed to youractions.

You don't want to be taking the easy path. So sometimes whatyou love to do is not always the same thing as what's easy to do with your timeand knowing the difference there and knowing what it is you specifically lovecan help you determine how you're going to spend your day and how are you goingto spend your week and how you're going to spend your money.

And. What pieces of that currency that is time you are going tospend and where you're not going to spend it. So you have more of that currencyfor the things you do love. You know, if you have to choose between watching amovie or working on some kind of projects. So tomorrow, whenever. That projectis due and you have to choose between spending time working on that project orduring the thing you actually love.

If you already spent that time, the night before doingsomething you really didn't enjoy, or you just kind of like doing, you've nowlost out on the opportunity. So being conscientious of what you love doing isreally important. I think.

[00:06:58] Daniel: Yeah, helps you to, to prioritize andsort of flip it around. What are things that you hate doing? What's somethingthat you hate.

[00:07:07] Andrew: Ooh, that's tough. Hmm. one moment.Let me think on this.

[00:07:18] Andrew: hate is a strong word. I there's veryfew things that I truly hate. Just like there's very few people that I trulylike, maybe two. with things that I hate doing Mowing the yard. At least itused to be one of those things that I hated. It was more allergies related, butI hated doing it because I would, I'd be useless for days afterwards.

I'd go mow yard. And my allergies would hit me so hard that Iwas practically had the flu for two days after I mowed the yard. I don't knowif that's still the case. I haven't taken the shot at mowing the yard in awhile. I've hired it out. A couple of years now. But my allergies a lot betternow.

So it might not be something I hate anymore, but I'll use thatas one example. Uh, Another thing that I really dislike doing this'll be uh, awork-related one I really dislike having to do employee correction drives menuts. I even have to do it because in my mind, everybody's just going to dowhat they're paid to do and at worst, they need encouragement to do better. Butwhatever, it's that person that just refuses to show up on time or takes longlunches or just that complete lack of communication or any of those kinds ofthings that you actually have to sit somebody down and be like, Hey, thisaction is going to get you fired, stopped doing it.

It drives me nuts. I hate doing that kind of stuff.

[00:08:30] Daniel: Hmm. Yeah. It's it feels likesomething that should be innate. It feels like it's, it shouldn't be somethingyou have to do, but yet you do.

[00:08:47] Andrew: I I'm trying not to go chronologicallyhere, but I also really like this one because, and this could be interestingcause you've had a lot of interesting stuff. Happened in your life in the lastyear? What advice would you give yourself a year ago?

[00:09:00] Daniel: Oh, there has been a lot of the, thepast year has been interesting. Hillary and I were just talking about that alittle bit today because we were eating breakfast in our kitchen. And the TV inthe den just kind of cycles through Google, you know, photo slide shows. And soit'll pop up pictures from random points of time and it popped one up.

The kitchen that we were currently sitting in, basically gut itout because we were dealing with a mold problem. And that was in the midst ofhaving a newborn baby. And it was also in the winter time and in the midst ofCOVID and we were just kind of reflecting on like how. Calm things are rightnow and, and how those times were certainly challenging.

And so I guess advice that I would give myself a year ago?

because at this point in time, we, we had not hit any of thatcraziness yet. Riley had not quite been born. Still about a month and a halfout, we did not yet know that our kitchen had mold issues in it. We didn't knowthat there was going to be the blackout freezing winter, whatever crazinesshappened in Texas.

I mean, we knew the COVID was going to happen. We're still inthe middle of that, but we're in a little bit of a calm before a storm. And soI think.

[00:10:13] Andrew: Okay.

[00:10:13] Daniel: What I would probably tell myself ayear ago is just that no matter how crazy things sort of seem to get that. It'sgoing to be something. If you can stick with that and stay through on the otherside, you know, as long as you've got food on the table and you've got a wayto, you know, provide for some of those basic needs for your family, yourlife's not in danger.

And those types of things, you know, anything is, is doable.And it's going to be frustrating and hard and challenging, but there are.Bigger problems in the world. And it's just a temporary problem. I think that'sthe thing that I would just continue to remind myself of is because this pointI can say, Hey, like it's not even going to be a full year of troubles that youstart to have to deal with, and then you get to the other side and it'sworthwhile.

And I think that's probably the advice I would give myself thatare just saying. Hey, Daniel in August of 20, 20 heads up your kitchen has moldin it. Maybe do something about it now instead of in January.

[00:11:15] Andrew: Would have been a little healthier. Ibet.

[00:11:17] Daniel: Yeah. But it all worked out

[00:11:19] Andrew: And no, one's dead. You got a sweetlooking kitchen now. Cute little kid. What can you complain about.

[00:11:25] Daniel: crippling. No, it's not, notcrippling, but There was a cost to all of it,

[00:11:30] Andrew: There

[00:11:30] Daniel: but it's worth it.

[00:11:31] Andrew: isn't that life, there's a cost toeverything. If you, you know, we talked about this last episode, there is acost to action, but there is also a cost to inaction. Literally everything youchoose to do or not to do will have a cost associated. Yeah. get a new kitchen.It's going to cost some money.

You don't get a new kitchen. Might not cost money might costyour, health though. There's always something you gotta trade off and you gottadetermine what you're doing.

[00:11:53] Daniel: Yeah, that's true. And I feel likethe, the reason we put that question in the book is that hopefully within ayear's time, any given year, hopefully you would be able to go back in time andtell yourself something of significance that would either encourage yourselfor, you know, help yourself grow. Over the course of that year, I, I feel likeif we.

We're to ask ourselves that question. And we would say, youknow what, like if I went back a year from now, I don't know, not that much haschanged or I haven't really grown that much or there, there really hasn't been,you know, a lot of development, something like that. Hopefully that feelsconcerning. And that's, that's obviously a big point of the book and thepodcast is that you know, we've got a limited amount of time.

And so as time goes on, if we're trying to reach certain goalsor trying to, you know, leave a certain legacy that you know, we can't just goyear by year and, and really be an autopilot and say, you know what, like,yeah, I don't, I don't have advice for myself. That should be a concerningstate. If you feel that.

[00:13:03] Andrew: 110% you can go an entire year and belike, oh, I didn't need to learn or do anything differently. Either you'reunbelievably impressive and you can pay for my next vacation or you need toreally do some self reflection and, you know, Hopefully it's the former andyou, people listening are just incredible.

But I think most, you know, let's look at Bezos. I bet. If youwent and talked to Bezos, he would probably be like, oh yeah, this is somestuff I've learned over the last year. That would have been kind of cool toknow beforehand. If I would've listened.

[00:13:43] Andrew: Yeah. All right. Let's hop to anotherquestion. This one, part of why I threw this one in was there's a line from.Mr. Rogers and he is just wonderful. And there's a book I'll try and link to itin the show notes that it was this really, really good book about Mr. Rogersmade me cry a couple of times.

And one of the main points that Mr. Rogers tried to convey topeople was what do you do with the mad when you feel it? Like, how do you reactto being angry? So we took it a little bit differently and we asked how do youcope with stress? Oh, and we'll start with, that's kind of the background on itand why this is important is if you don't have a healthy method for coping withstress, it's probably an indicator that you are not used to having stress inyour life, which means you're not used to being uncomfortable, which ultimatelyleads to you not growing.

And that sounds kind of like the Jetta. Mantra uh, stress leadsto growth or something like that. We'll try and make something up down theroad, but that's the reason we have this one in there. So Daniel, how do youcope with stress?

[00:14:43] Daniel: Well, like, I feel like stress?

It can be a good thing. I mean, it, typically is at its onset.And so if I'm feeling stressed out about something, then the very first thingthat I'm going to try to do is make sure that I understand what it is. That'sstressing me out. Not always as apparent as it would seem in, especially forsome people, like there's just this constant feeling of stress and not a clearpicture of what's causing it.

So for me, that's, that's the very first thing is take time tounderstand what it is that is stressing me out. Do I just have this tension inmy chest? A real understanding of why, or did I get an email from my boss aboutsomething that's blowing up? And it's like, okay, obviously I'm, I'm stressedout about this email and this project or whatever it is.

So once I have a good idea of what it is, that's stressing meout. Then I'm going to look for the actions that I can be taking right nowtoday to. To respond to that stress. And so it, it may be circling up my teamand letting them know about a situation and talking about an action plan andgetting stuff taken care of at work.

It may be, going out for a run. Maybe I'm stressed out becauseI got some blood work back and wow. Like it wasn't good or something like that.So it could be changing up my diet. It could be, you know, adding in someexercise So usually there's going to be a component that I'm trying to do, youknow, almost immediately in response to the stress, but then also taking thetime, once that thing is done to sort of look and see, okay, is this problemresolved?

Like, was there literally a fire on my porch? I put out thefire. That's not a problem anymore. I don't have to be stressed about it. Or isit something that, you know, I also need to put some, some action or some planningin place to continue to resolve like a. An issue with bad lab work from aphysical, I can't eat a bunch of kale and all of a sudden tip the scales in tomy favor.

I need to, you know, sure. It takes some action today, but thenI need to make a plan and sort of restructuring an environment going forward todeal with that stressful issue. So that's the other thing that I'm going to do.And then. A situation where I just feel stressed and I cannot figure out what'sgoing on.

That's probably something where I'm going to take some time anddo some, some breathing techniques. I'm going to probably try to get to a placewhere I can sort of be still be quiet, getting to get into the Bible, read,read some scripture, get into some prayer, just do something along that line istypically You know, a step I'm going to take, if I'm struggling to identifystress or if I'm still feeling that stress even after I've taken my actions.

[00:17:29] Andrew: That's good. So a little reflection,kind of a, I guess another way to put it would be like you're taking time toprobably be with your thoughts and do some, some mind mapping to see whereyou're at in life.

[00:17:41] Daniel: Yeah. Yeah, for sure. Not ask you theexact same question, but I'm going to ask a similar one that we do have in thebook, which is, what about your anger when that comes along? What do you dowith it?

[00:17:51] Andrew: for me, I really don't get trulyangry. Very often. I get frustrated a lot all the time, but I very rarely getangry. One of the things I try and do is depending on the situation, If it'sjust some road rage. Usually I say some bad words and then it's gone. But ifit's something more related to my relationships or people that I'm, people ingeneral that I care about or something that I am doing, that I am angry, that Idid, you know, either I said something mean to somebody or I was lazy anddidn't go to the gym three days in a row.

Usually I will try and kind of recalibrate myself just likewhat you're talking about with stress. Like I don't, I don't think you dealwith either of those two very different. I'll kind of take a moment. One of thegood triggers I use is I'll think about something I'm grateful for, which canbe very difficult sometimes when you're in the wrong head space.

But that usually helps is I'll think of. You're like, Hey, I amI'm in this really good situation. Or I just had this really great food,something as simple as that, like I just had some great ice cream. I can't bemad. Like I'm a guy who's able to eat a large thing of ice cream without toomany concerns.

Or I'll, try and reflect if I'm mad at somebody, it might be,this person just did something that really upset. But this person has beenvaluable and has been kind and, you know, they're a great person, whatever itis. And I'll try and think of something positive to almost balance it out, kindof, you know, like putting in a, some high pH chemical into acid to neutralizeit.

Uh, Yeah, that's true.

I got a little, little chemistry uh, analogy for you, peopleout there. So that kind of stuff. Now, if we're talking about like anger, like,like rapping group, where I'm really, really upset, it's that hot flash. Thatis something that I don't have a great tool to deal with because it justdoesn't happen very often.

But the few times it has, it's usually all attempt justbreathing. This is so cliched, but I'm a big proponent of that, you know,counting to 10 and breathing kind of thing. If I haven't just snapped. Usuallygo really quiet and I'll try and breathe it out problem with this techniquebecause you need that space from whatever is upsetting you.

So if I'm arguing with somebody it's not viable tool, so Idon't have a great answer. If I am like, you know, if somebody is up in my faceor I'm arguing with an employee or, you know, a friend's really upset me andthey're still doing whatever the thing is, I'll try and talk it out. But that'ssomething I'm still working on and learning on how to take better tools upagainst.

[00:20:28] Andrew: Okay, Daniel, before we get into maybesome more fun questions that weren't in the book, let me ask you one of myfavorites from this whole list. I think there's really, I think it's like 10,12. I don't know, not too many questions on here. And we had some sub questionsthat kind of makes it confusing.

So let's call it under 30, somewhere in there, but one of myfavorites and I think this is really good for self-reflection because it's oneof the more. Well argued aspects out there in the world. Uh, Whether it be atchurch uh, psychology, wherever it is, but We are the average of the five mostimportant closest people to us in our lives. And it's something that they'veshown time and time again. So I'm not going to ask you who the five people arein your life, but what do you think about that concept? Do you have five peoplein mind and what do they bring to your table? How do they elevate you? Or howdo they bring you down?

[00:21:18] Daniel: Yeah. So I've definitely heard thatquestion several times have answered it a few times and, and something thatcame up recently, that's kind of made me rethink a little bit about. You knowhow I approach answering that or how I think about the question. And I'll tellsome stories alongside this as well is, you know, there, there are certainlyfive people that are really important in my life and have been for a long time.

And like the reality is it's like those five, if I'm saying whoare the five most important people, it's probably largely talked by like closefamily members, maybe friends I've known a really long time. But I thinkanother important thing to look at with this question is who are the five mostclose in proximity to me at this time in life.

And that's something that has been shown to be really importantwith relationships is proximity. That kind of silly example of this is when Ifirst started working at my job. I was on this team that was kind of in a, wecalled it the dungeon. It was like, Kind of far off space of the office. Andthere weren't a lot of people over there and there was another person that washired at the same time as me, that anytime I came in, like our desks were closeby.

And so I'd stop by and chat and say hi. And you know, I wouldsay that that was one of my closer friends at work. And then some shuffleshappened. I stayed in the dungeon. She moved up to the second floor. And I wentfrom having a conversation on nearly a daily basis to maybe once a month we'dhave a conversation.

And it wasn't that I disliked that person or anything likethat. It was just the proximity changed. And I think that's really important tokeep in mind. And so when I think about proximity, obviously, my spouse, mywife, Hillary, is, is the most close person to me in proximity. And I would sayit's the most.

Person in my life we have a huge amount of influence on eachother, but even if that proximity is kind of built in like living together, wealso do our best to, you know, have things that bring us into close connectionbeyond just physically being nearby, even though it's important. But we've, youknow, keeping that in mind, we've done our best to align that proximity withpeople that we've felt.

Really important to both Hillary and I as, as a whole, like,cause if, if one person is important to me, then they're going to probably beimportant to Hillary as well. Again, because of that proximity. And so when wewere looking to move, we really prioritized being in a neighborhood that wouldbe close to some of our really good friends, Brittany, Angela, and Timmins.

And we prioritize it so much so that there was a, house thatwas four or five houses down the street from Brett and Angela, Tim and Janet atthe time lived basically behind them. And Hillary called me up, said that shelooked at it and liked it. And I agree that we should make an offer on itbefore I even saw the place.

And I don't know. I think some people would maybe say like, youknow, it's kind of weird. Not just move into the same neighborhood thatliterally moved down the street from your very best friends at the time. Andit's like, yeah. I mean, maybe it's weird, but we love it. And it's been awesome.And we love it so much that when Michael and Amy decided to move back fromCalifornia, like we.

Campaigned to have them move into our neighborhood or close by.They were thinking about Richardson, which is a little further up. They werealso thinking about kind of like Highlands, which was close by and we made sureto have them over made sure to like, try to take them to some of the placesnearby that we thought were really cool and like talk to everything up.

And they ultimately. Opted for a house that was closer. Andagain, it's been huge to have themselves close by Brittany, Angela, haveconvinced their brother-in-law and Bret sister to move into a house like rightbehind them. And I think it's just something that, you know, greatrelationships they will last despite distance.

But if it's a great relationship, you need to have thatconnection more than. Once a month or every other month, then you have aconversation it's like, oh, nothing has changed, but it's like, you need thatconnection on a daily basis, at least a weekly basis. And so, yeah, like Ithink looking at the five most important people it's, it's worth considering,and I would challenge you if those are not also the people that are the fiveclosest to you in proximity.

Try to find a way to change that. So that's my spin on thequestion. Sorry. I took it a different direction.

[00:25:37] Andrew: You went on a, on a Andrew ran overthere. I like it. That was such a good answer. And I am, I think that is great.I don't know if this is just because we are friends and we think similarsimilarly, but I love the idea of that close proximity like that physical closeproximity. To your people who you think are important.

Like I I'm super jealous that you all get to live down thestreet from each other. Cause that sounds awesome. I would honestly be one ofthose people that was easily convinced to move into a commune with my friends.Like that sounds like a blast. So I agree. That's pretty cool. And it reallyis. The more That proximity creates more Headspace for that person in yourbrain, which makes them affect you more. If you're thinking about, Hey, whatwould these people that I care about? Do whenever you're making decisions thatwill affect how you decide to do something.

And if they are. More at the front of your mind, then the morelikely they are to influence your decision-making.

[00:26:41] Andrew: See, I really do think the five peoplethat are closest to you, the ones that you think the most about, they're allreally important.

It's something that you should consider in. You probably needto be. Kind of discerning. Don't just let people fall into your life becauseit's again, convenient or easy, be conscientious of who you spend your timewith and who you live near and all of that kind of stuff. Like it's, it'simportant. So with that said, Daniel, this is not in the book.

I don't know if our audience will enjoy it, but, you know, weusually end our interview episodes with fun questions and stories, and maybeyou'll be able to add some stories in on this as well. But I have a completelyunrelated question for you that I hope catches you off guard.

What would be your weapon of choice and a zombie apocalypse?

I remember questions are important. So how you answer isimportant.

[00:27:29] Daniel: Are we talking about like world war Z,zombie apocalypse. Are we talking about like, walking dead, like shamblingslows on these.

[00:27:37] Andrew: For peace of mind. At least on mydesired zombie apocalypse, we're going walking dead. The running fast ones. Iwould, I'd probably go I'm out.

[00:27:46] Daniel: Okay. I think I'm going to go with, Idon't have like a great way of using it, but I'm going to probably go with somesort of like glaze, like a long. Weapon with a blade, doesn't rely on gasoline orelectricity. And I can keep these things at a, a far distance away from me.

[00:28:06] Andrew: Oh, a spear on steroids.

[00:28:09] Daniel: I do love spheres.

[00:28:10] Andrew: Kaledin storm blessed 2.0 covenant atya.

[00:28:13] Daniel: That's right.

[00:28:14] Andrew: With that said a, a follow-up questionthat actually ties back to what we were just talking about. Would those fiveclosest people, the people that you average out to becoming Daniel, do theymake your zombie survival team?

[00:28:28] Daniel: Yeah, I would say so

for sure.

[00:28:30] Andrew: Do they know this year? Have you hadthis discussion with you with any

[00:28:34] Daniel: Definitely not. I haven't talked tozombie things in a long time.

[00:28:38] Andrew: That plan ready? No. Who knows? Maybethat's a COVID variant 12 and a half.

[00:28:44] Daniel: I hope not.

[00:28:46] Andrew: Yeah. I've honestly gotten toocomfortable with my life. Not really not really looking for that kind oflifestyle anymore. I enjoy my more sedentary, easygoing noncombat lifestyles.

.

[00:28:58] Daniel: All right. Before we close out,Andrew, I do have to ask, what is your weapon of choice?

[00:29:03] Andrew: Ooh. It'd be a sort of some kindProbably at Gladius. Cause I feel, I feel like that's more my size kind ofweapon. I've also been listening to that gates of fire book and I've been kindof digging a little more Spartan, Roman era kind of weapons that said I am abig fan of Spears, but deep down in my heart, I'd have to go with the sword.

I think

[00:29:23] Daniel: You,

[00:29:24] Andrew: Definitely something medieval.

[00:29:25] Daniel: you get one.

[00:29:26] Andrew: I'm going with the sword. Probably nota ketonic cause that's a little too cliche. I'd like a double edged weapon. Soprobably Gladys,

[00:29:32] Daniel: All

[00:29:33] Andrew: uh, fingers crossed out that are likea nice heavy ax for, okay. I take it back. You caught me off guard. I'mthinking this through I'd want a nice, big, heavy ax because a sword, you gotto go for decapitation and that's a lot of work.

[00:29:47] Daniel: And it was a lot of work.

[00:29:48] Andrew: So I'm thinking a nice big ax that Ican uh, you know, use as a multi-tool if I need to get some lumber and maybe alittle bit, you know, if I miss a little bit it's okay. Cause it's got thatbludgeoning effect, whereas a sorority, a little more accurate. So I thinkthat's my answer. A Gimli style acts. Okay.

[00:30:05] Daniel: All right. That definitely impacts my,my decision making on, you know, the top five and gladiator team and thingslike that. I won't tell you if it's a positive or negative.

[00:30:15] Andrew: No. Let me try again.

[00:30:25] Daniel: Well, even though we ended up withsome, some silly question asking we hope that. Y'all take the time to just gothrough with some close friends and take the time to ask each other somequestions. Like I said, at the beginning, I think questions are really, reallyimportant in, especially as, as, as guys, we can just spend a lot of time withrelationships, just doing activities, playing things and all of that.

It never really. Get the time to dive in a little bit deeper toadd some depth to relationships in questions are a great way to do that. So Idon't know if I necessarily recommend carving out an hour and just asking eachother questions back and forth. That that might be a little intense, but. Maybehave one or two questions that the next time you're heading out to a golf gameor playing some X-Box or whatever it is you do with your close friends that youjust drop it in there and see what happens.

That's not my official challenge. That's just kind of arecommendation on maybe something to take from the episode. My officialchallenge for us this week, though, is to. Take a little time and reflect onthat five most important people question. And then also ask yourself the fiveclosest people, the people that you interact with the most and see wherethere's that overlap.

See if, if the five most important people are actually notpeople that you interact with on a regular basis, or if you have good parodybetween the. two. And if you don't have good parody, if, if the five people youconsider really important are not actually in your life, all that much. Then mychallenge is either figure out a way to get them involved more so that they'remore proximate to you or consider updating your list.

So that's our challenge for this week. We really appreciate youguys taking the time to, listen. Hope you enjoyed the question asking.Hopefully there's one you can take in a poll employee in your lives. We'll beback with another episode soon, but if you ever want to come on. Just enjoyhaving Andrew.

And I ask you random questions, reach out to us, let us knowotherwise, have a great rest of your week. And we look forward to hearing fromyou soon.